Do affairs “just happen”? Affairs have been happening since the beginning of time…
and the question most asked is WHY?
You may know someone who has had an affair, your mate may have had an affair
or you may have had an affair.
If you’ve been involved in an affair then you have questions of your own. Let’s look at some most asked questions.
How did this happen?
If we want to make the answer as simple as we can…we can say “because your NEEDS aren’t getting met at home”
As simple as this seems, these “needs” are more important than you may think. Even the “simple needs” add up!
Here’s a partial list of things that are basic needs in a relationship.
- Acceptance (love) from your mate
- Physical touch which includes sex
- Intimacy, both physical and emotional (it all starts with emotional intimacy)
An affair is a step-by-step process
To learn where the affair starts we need look no further than the brain.
Lets look at what Jesus taught about this subject.
Matthew 5:28 The Message Bible
“You know the next commandment pretty well, too: ‘Don’t go to bed with another’s spouse.’ But don’t think you’ve preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed. Your heart can be corrupted by lust even quicker than your body . Those leering looks you think nobody notices—they also corrupt.”
Jesus was saying that an affair starts in ones heart (brain) and the damage is already done before you have sex with that person.
What do I do to stop this?
The most effective way to stop an affair is to get your Temperament Needs met.
This begins with knowing what Temperament is to begin with.
Knowing what your mates Temperament Needs are can be the difference between a happy marriage and an unhappy one.
Contact us to start a process to healing and if you are in an affair we can help with a step-by-step process.