An affair doesn’t start like like fireworks…it begins stealthily so that one never sees it coming. An affair is something that builds on itself…like a self mutating computer virus.
Most of my patients tell me that they didn’t plan for this to happen, and most are truly sorry. The damage is done and it’s not reversible…but a marriage can recover.
So how can this be a chemical addiction you ask? Lets look at a few facts and see what we can find.
How the addiction begins
Dr W H Penewit does research on specific addictions and how they affect the brain. He found that when an individual looks at pornography with their eyes it creates a chemical that as a result is 100 times MORE addictive than crack cocaine.
The chemical addiction similar to the addictive chemical of pornography happens in the brain of those in an affair.
Jesus himself taught about this addiction in one of his teachings to his disciples (and us too)
Matthew 5:27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery’;
28 but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
It’s even more interesting to read what he says in verse 29
29 If your right eye makes you stumble, tear it out and throw it from you; for it is better for you to lose one of the parts of your body, than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.
Jesus knew that “the eye gate” can be trouble…and what we allow into our minds/hearts can be equally addictive.
Considering an affair isn’t usually on peoples minds starting out.
They are enjoying the attention that they are getting from that good looking co-worker that they don’t get from their spouse.
This is the point where the danger begins but can be stopped if its acted on by both husband and wife immediately!
Fridays post will finish this 2 part series on this topic
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