Why anger does not work
Teaching people that anger does not work is the first and foremost issue that I deal with in therapy.
Anger is the emotion that will always harm a relationship…how much depends on each individual.
Anger seems to find its way in most day-to-day situations, and as we all know anger is not a friend we want around.
Anger will put stress on a relationship that will eventually cause harm.
Where does anger really come from?
We have all read about “righteous anger” and “the anger of God”
But is this the same anger that you feel when you have had a “knock down drag out fight” with your husband/wife?
Let us look at righteous anger…
Righteous anger is expressed when we are confronted with sins such as in cases of child abuse, pornography, racism, etc.
It is easy to see that this is not the anger that we exhibit when we get into an argument with our mate.
Now let us look at ungodly or “harmful” anger
Anger can become sinful when motivated by pride or allowed to linger and is unproductive and distorts the purposes of God.
This type of anger can cause much emotional pain and even physical disease.
Here is a list of disorders and diseases that have and are motivated by anger
- Obsessive compulsive disorder
- Alcohol disorder
- Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder
- Oppositional defiant disorder
- Bi-polar disorder
- Intermittent explosive disorder
The list of “reasons” for anger could be exhausting.
Anger can control lives, careers, and happiness…but
What if I told you that you can learn about yourself and reasons why anger may be prevalent in your life?
A “Temperament Profile” can show “where” anger is in your life and how to control it day to day.
Calling our office or sending us a message can be a start to a happier life.