Marriage counseling …starting with you

As you might have guessed, my wife and I do marriage counseling. In fact a good portion of what we do is marriage counseling.

Over the many years that we have done this we have learned a few things, some of which I want to share with you today

Two people come to see me who are hurt downtrodden rejected dejected and depressed.

Most of these people cannot even see the light at the end of the tunnel

and so they call me out of desperation and as a last resort.

 

And to be honest with you one of the first things that I say to them is you have come to the right place!

First things first

The first thing I do is run the temperament profile on the husband and the wife.

In reality every answer that this couple needs is contained in the Word of God (the Bible) and their temperament profiles.

There are reasons why this couple has come to me to begin with,

and the temperament profile connected with the word of God will give them those reason in black and white.

The answers that they seek are simple but getting those answers to them takes time.

The next thing I do is help them heal emotionally. This part is where the evil one tends to have a stronghold.

But these strongholds are easily broken as long as I have two people who are willing to work with me.

I have to teach you about yourself when I counsel you,

so you will quickly learn that we do not do marriage counseling the way most therapist do.

There are times when we will see the husband alone, or the wife alone.

Why do we do this?

We really like to have one-on-one sessions so that we can see and hear the pain that is coming from the husband or wife.

Please understand that the temperament profile is useless unless it is connected to the word of God.

The five temperaments that we work with The Choleric,

The Melancholy, The Sanguine, the supine and the phlegmatic each look at life just a little bit differently

and some temperaments will look at life totally opposite of other temperaments.

The next blog that I will write deals with the five temperaments specifically.

Right now is the perfect time to begin you were moved toward healing

rather you are single married divorced widowed or for any other reason. Give us a call today