Ten thousand pound shoes

 shoesI’ve often had to wear these shoes…the ones that are so heavy that you have extreme difficulty taking even one step.

I’m sure you’ll know which issues I’m talking about.  This usually happens when we know we are supposed

to do something that we don’t want to do.

If you’re married or are in a committed relationship then you know what I’m talking about.

You know how heavy those shoes can be!

So let’s set the scene here shall we?

You get into a little argument with your mate and that little tiff turns into a major “knock down drag out fight”

It always seems like each party is totally innocent of all charges so-to-speak.

After the dust settles you say to yourself “what did I do wrong?” you are SURE that you are innocent and

your mate is guilty.

If you have any type of relationship with God he will speak to you about what to do next

This is where it gets tough

If you really want to know what to do next and you ask God…he will show you.

It would be nice if God would say “there there my child…you just sit down right there and ill get

your mate to come and tell you how bad they were and apologize to you”

How many times has that scene ever happened? NEVER!

God will always tell YOU to go apologize to your mate even if it may not be your fault.

Why? lets look and see why:

Paul was an expert in this area…he said in Romans 12 starting in verse


14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.

The first thing you must do is BLESS your mate…but how?

15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.

16 Be of the same mind toward one another; do not be haughty in mind,

but associate with the lowly.

Do not be wise in your own estimation.

What is Paul saying?

Put yourself in their shoes. Why did they react the way that they did?

There is a reason that you must consider here! Remember God will move on YOU to make the first move.

Hurt people hurt people

I’ve learned over the years that its hurting people that lash out and hurt other people.

So whats the reason? What ever it is its your “ministry” to stop the pain quickly.

Be of the same mind…meaning try to see why they are so angry and understand them.


OK “the ball is in your court”

17 Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. [o]Respect what is right in the sight of all men.

18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.

Here’s where it gets good

No doubt you have your ten thousand pound shoes on.

“So far as it depends on YOU…go and apologize to your mate!

Yep! its YOUR JOB to make the first move.

By doing so you release yourself from the pain of the battle.

Once you are released from this battle…you can pray and help your mate heal.

Ive used this countless times and it works!

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