When two become “WE”
Marriage can be quite beneficial, and if you are doing it according to God’s Word then it can be a dream come true.
Lets see what what The Word says about “The power of WE”
It doesn’t sound like this is talking about marriage does it?
Let’s read on
Ecc 4: 10 For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.
It sounds like God has different plans for marriage than we know.
It seems as like he has plans for 2 people to complete his love doesn’t it?
Let’s go further shall we?
Ecc 4:11 Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?
It seems that God didn’t leave anything out. He is even talking about physical intimacy.
Here is where he added that finishing touch…
Ecc 4:12 And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him.
God shows his desire for our safety physically and spiritually.
But here is the most powerful of all of verse 4
A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart
Here he is talking about Jesus himself!
If we have Jesus as the integral part of the marriage, then we have it all.
But what happens when you don’t see “eye to eye” with each other?
At times it seems like no matter how hard we try to see eye to eye
When situations get this way, we often wonder what’s happening?
As it goes on and on it robs us of a few things that we need to be aware of.
- The trust and joy that God designed to be in your marriage is damaged. This is where we begin to see things differently than they should be.
- The trust that you once had begins to vanish right before your eyes. Intimacy causes a “love trust” that can last through the darkest most difficult times. This trust helps us to bond to one another during spiritual battles.
- We go into “self-defense mode”. We move to the “every man for himself” mode. Since intimacy and trust are gone, we feel as if we are all alone in the world. We begin to “fend for ourselves”
The loving, powerful and enduring “we” is gone. Many other things happen from here on and it weakens the relationship even more.
Re-Establishing the parameters in your marriage.
Here is where we need to “draw a line in the sand” so-to-speak. Here are a few steps to get started.
- Slowly attempt to discuss things as a couple and not two individuals trying to get their own way. (remember “self-defense mode”)
- Refuse to make any decisions without each other and refuse to make a decision unless both of you agree with each other.
- Seek help to understand and learn how to accomplish these goals.
We use Temperament therapy to help you to understand each other and how to come together when making decisions.
We can help!